When a person realizes that his relationship is crumbling, he immediately begins to act. Unfortunately, these impulsive actions spoil the situation in 90% and completely deprive you of the chances of a return.

Of course, each situation must be dealt with separately, but there are two express techniques that can be used by everyone without exception, even if you don’t know what is the cause of your problems and worsening relationships.

But I warn you, this is not a magic pill that will fix the situation once and for all. Treat these techniques like a first aid kit.

From you, in turn, a sober look at the relationship and a willingness to correctly perform the techniques are required.

Analyze if there are signs that your relationship is deteriorating. Because there are often clients with whom I have the following dialogues:

How did your relationship start to deteriorate?

No way. Just one day she came and said that she did not love.

And before that, nothing foreshadowed?

Now, if you are one of those who absolutely do not see what is happening around, then first you need to learn to distinguish the main signs of a deterioration in relations, otherwise none of the most effective express techniques will help you. So first answer yourself:

1. Are fights increasing in frequency or intensity?

2. Has the girl become more cold, distant, inattentive to you?

3. Does she have interests that she devotes more time to than you?

Each affirmative answer is a separate sign that indicates that there is a crack in the relationship. And if in Lately you observe all three signs - your relationship is on the verge of collapse. It is especially disturbing if they are supported by contempt and neglect. Then everything is very bad.

Therefore, I urge everyone - analyze your partner's behavior and do not close your eyes to negative changes.

If now you understand that yes - these signs take place in the behavior of a loved one, immediately start using express methods for saving relationships: “urgent further” and “mirror behavior”.

What it is?

1. Urgent on. When you notice that your girlfriend has become uninteresting, and she even experiences some irritation, freeze sharply. Just do other things, focus on work, find new hobbies, hang out with friends. By this we achieve the fact that we create a deficit of your attention in the girl, and according to the law “we don’t keep what we have, we cry for losses”, there will be a fear of losing you. While you surrounded her with attention, she was sure that you would not go anywhere, and at that time she could calmly look for a more interesting alternative or mentally prepare for leaving. The "urgent next" technique will greatly shake the girl's confidence that the game is going according to her rules. And a friend will no longer be calm that you will stay close to her in any of her attitudes. The minimum term for using "urgent next" is a week. In unopened cases, this is always enough. But if the method did not work in a week, then the problem is deeper and express techniques cannot be dispensed with. At the same time, a good result from “urgent further” also does not mean that everything is now excellent. Again, this technique is just a first aid kit. They took out a bandage, wrapped the bleeding wound, but from this the wound would immediately heal.

2. Mirror behavior. This is a more complex version of the first technique, but it is very useful and globally it needs to be mastered even by those who have no special problems. The technique lies in the fact that you reinforce positive steps positively, and negative ones - only negatively. If a girl treats you with all her heart, is affectionate, speaks of love - always answer her in the same way. And when he makes claims, neglects or scores on you, there should always be an ignore as a mirror. Politely interrupt communication and do not talk until the girl begins to communicate with you normally. The universal phrase in this case is: "While you are in this mood, I will not communicate with you." And you wait for her to be ready for a constructive conversation. Big mistake, continue the conversation or resume it when the girlfriend is still emotional. The main thing here is to wait for the girl to understand that hysteria and claims will always lead to a temporary cessation of communication. But if you go first to approach, the effect will be the opposite. The girl will understand that you are ready to endure any of her behavior, because you are afraid of losing more than she is losing you. And hello, the strongest violation of the balance of significance. When the technique is carried out correctly, the girl will have a fear of loss and respect for you as a man who is able to mark a clear boundary of what is permitted.

So, we have considered two express techniques that will urgently slow down the process of worsening relations. But do not forget about the main condition of both methods - not to be the first to approach, to withstand the character and wait until the girl herself reaches out to you. Only then will express methods give the expected result. Good luck!

Our parentsVasilets Tatyana,

initiation specialist

male and female maturity

And now we will shift the focus of attention only to our parents - father and mother. After all, they are our first teachers and the main conductors of that gigantic experience that came to us through our family, or rather, through two generic branches that father and mother connected! Does our personal happiness depend on our parents? What is the answer?

Our parents are people with certain human characteristics. We can have all sorts of feelings about them. But in any case, no matter what we think, no matter what we feel for them - father and mother are a royal couple, in relation to which we can only bow our heads.

The soul of the father and the soul of the mother do for us the most precise work of spiritual guidance that everyone needs. man- in order to become mature a man, and every woman to become a mature woman.

If the tests turned out to be difficult, then this only increases the likelihood of high results!

If you wish, you can mentally talk with the soul of the father and the soul of the mother. The souls of the father and mother differ from their personalities in a divinely high consciousness and ability to understand everything and everything, although in the imagination they look exactly the same as our parents. You can tell the soul of the father and the soul of the mother about how you live, how you work, what successes and difficulties you have, what is happening in your personal life, tell about your partners, about the joys and problems associated with children, health, etc. .P. You can ask them for forgiveness, no matter what.

You can thank, ask for advice, and then - blessings in your affairs, relationships and the fulfillment of your destiny.

Such communication with the souls of parents can cause tears, feelings of guilt, love and many other experiences.

It is useful to reinforce such spiritual practice with daily morning bows to the father and mother in a secluded environment where no one will disturb you. Bows connect the body to the establishment of a healthy spiritual hierarchy in your family, clan and in the inner Cosmos! The body is an exact fractal of the Soul, it will never deceive, and bows are unique in that they exclude the obsessive and contradictory work of our ever-doubting head! Bowing to the father and mother is even a shame to call spiritual practice - this is the most ancient cultural behavior of healthy people, nothing more.

Repeating such communication with the soul of the father and the soul of the mother, doing the daily practice of bowing to the parents, you will soon be surprised at the invisible powerful support that you will feel in all areas of life. And of course, much will begin to change for the better in the matter of mutual love ...

Technique for developing relationships with parents.

Probably, every person who works at least a little on his spiritual development knows the importance of good relations with parents, about respect for parents. And how exactly to work on this was not particularly discussed anywhere. I bring to your attention one of the most effective techniques.

So. If you now or in the past (in childhood) had conflicts with your parents, with one of the parents, some misunderstandings or quarrels, then this will certainly leave its mark on your fate, and, as a rule, negative. This especially happens in childhood. When we are children, we do not understand many aspects of family life, or we see the quarrels of our parents, or we do not understand why we are not treated the way we want it. And all this forms our subconscious programs with which we live and which “create” our life. If, for example, in childhood, dad did not pay special attention daughter, did not work with her, was not gentle, then she will remember this attitude, and this will be her subconscious program. And in life, she will attract men who will treat her the same way. Because we attract what we have inside.

So, the technology itself.

It is done on the growing moon. This technique works with the human subconscious, with the right hemisphere of the brain, so it radically changes our attitude to this world.

For dad, the practice starts on Sunday, for mom from Monday.

You need to start writing on Sunday (Monday) with your LEFT hand at least 10 times a day for 2 months such a phrase

“Dear dad, NAME. Please forgive me for everything and I forgive you too. I wish you Divine love and happiness!”

After writing 10 times (usually takes 30 minutes). Put a photo of dad (mom), read what they wrote, and bow. And so continue for 2 months. The work is very serious and the results will amaze you. It doesn't matter if the parents are alive or not.

On top of that, on Sundays and Mondays it is very favorable to do 10 bows a day to parents (dad - Sunday, mom - Monday), also put a photo, say from the heart what you want to say, for example, “Dad, I accept you the way you are and thank you for everything. I wish you love and happiness” and bow.

The bow, like the practice of writing with the left hand, works with the subconscious and changes all these settings. The author of this technique, amazing in its results: Rami Blekt.

Duality (duality, dichotomy) is a pair of opposites (polarities, poles) in the human mind. For example, good and evil, love and hate, good and bad. There are a huge number of dualities, and each has its own set. There are more general and abstract ones, like those that I have listed (they are relevant for most people), and more individual, specific ones, which are very relevant for one, and do not matter at all for another.

All dualities exist solely in the human mind. One pole of duality (polarity) is opposite to the other (complements it, balances it) - but only in the human mind.

The whole mind (including the subconscious) is built on the basis of dualities. Every concept in the human mind has its opposite. Often this is expressed simply by negation. For example, “buy a newspaper - do not buy a newspaper”, “get married - do not get married”, “hot - not hot”. The last duality demonstrates that a particular concept can have several opposite poles, polarities. That is, “hot” already has two opposites: “not hot” and “cold”. Someone will agree with this, someone will not - because everyone has their own set of dualities with which a person has agreed in the process of life.

It should be understood that if any duality is real or relevant for you, then this is because you once created it yourself, or agreed with it (agreed that it takes place). To accept duality is to create it for yourself. It is also your creation, even if you were forced or persuaded to create it. Therefore, never forget that the creator of dualities is yourself. This will speed up the work. When you process duality, you go beyond the duality mind.

Everything that exists in the mind (and subconscious) is held there solely by the existence of dualities. Dualities are the foundation on which experience is layered. This is how the mind works (hereinafter, by the word mind, I will also mean the subconscious, because it is also built on dualities).

By working with the extreme points of duality (with polarities), you affect all the material in between! This is the most efficient. Less effective (but justified in some cases) is to work with single episodes from life.

Actual dualities

An actual duality is a duality that worries or interests you. People don't usually see this as a duality because a person is usually only interested in one pole of the duality. For example, a person wants to become free (from something) and, accordingly, the polarity “to be free” is relevant for him. He understands it. But he does not see the reverse side of the duality (which he creates unconsciously) - "to be not free." After all, in order to move towards freedom, you need a pole, from which, in fact, you need to move. It is created automatically (subconsciously); and than stronger man wants freedom, the more he makes himself (subconsciously) unfree. Otherwise, he could not move to the opposite pole. The charge (voltage, negative) between the poles grows, and the influence of duality on the consciousness intensifies, suppressing common sense, from which a person subsequently suffers. (By the way, various religions, organizations, sects, etc. profit from this.) Thus, in this example, the duality “to be free - to be not free” is actual for a person.

Both poles must be worked out. Working with just one pole is less efficient because you don't touch both extreme points that hold everything together. The raw pole holds its opposite.

You cannot remove just one pole and leave the other, because they hold each other. Therefore, while working on one polarity, work on the opposite as well. This is the principle of working through dualities.

In the above techniques, work with the poles is carried out, as a rule, in turn: 1,2,1,2, etc. Such work with the poles gives a stronger effect than the study of the poles separately. This is due to the fact that you constantly change points of study (your position), and do not dive into one thing. This gives more space to see the situation, and going beyond the mind is faster.

When the material that was between the polarities is erased (discharged), the duality disappears. It ceases to be important to you. At the level of understanding, both poles, of course, remain, and analytically you can distinguish one from the other, but now there is no material that was between the poles and negatively influenced you. This is the expected end result of polarity work (described in more detail below).

The difficulty is that all dualities are interconnected (associated) with each other. This delays the processing of a particular duality because "nearby" dualities will be activated. But in the end, it's not a big deal, as those nearby also release some charge (negative, tension) and will be easier to work with in the future.

So the beginning of working with dualities can be a little unpleasant and long - a lot of different material will come up that is not very related to the duality being worked out. These can be unpleasant emotions, thoughts, pictures, whole episodes of life, etc. This is to be expected and no one says it will always be easy. And in order to finally go beyond the duality mind, you will need to go through all this.

I repeat. When working with dualities, you should expect unpleasant material of any kind to come up. Once in the area of ​​your consciousness, it is discharged (erased, disappears) and ceases to influence you, either explicitly or implicitly. The effect of releasing it all is cumulative, and the further you go, the easier it will be. The initial stage is the most difficult. At the first level, many people will be eliminated - lazy or those who are afraid of difficulties; they will find a simpler but less effective practice. Well, that's the way it should be. This path is not for everyone.

Yawning, drowsiness, clouding of consciousness are signs of the release of negative material to the conscious level. The material itself is not always recognized as specific cases from the past, but this is not required. There may be simple sensations, such as heaviness or discomfort in the body, there may be unpleasant emotions, thoughts, etc.

There will also be pleasant sensations that usually occur at the end of working through a particular duality. They may or may not last a long time. It depends on various factors.

Expected Result

The expected result from the study of duality - you no longer feel any tension when you consider duality, any of its poles. There is peace, ease and relaxation. Ideally, you can keep your attention on both poles at the same time, without discomfort or preference at the moment for either of them (however, this is not always the case at first). Often, but not always, laughter arises at the end of the working through of duality (as one of the indicators of the discharge of negativity). There may be various other pleasant sensations and emotions, such as joy, a surge of energy, a feeling of release, emptiness (where there was a problem before), a comfortable neutral state, a "zero point" state, etc. There may also be a new understanding of the situation or a solution to the problem. After achieving the expected result, you should finish the work with the developed duality.

Rule: ALWAYS WORK WITH ACTUAL DUALITIES ONLY!

How to find your actual dualities. All you have to do is answer some questions like:
– what is important to me?
– what do I want?
– what am I afraid of?
– what worries me?
What do I want to change in my life?
– what do I think of myself?
– what do I think of others? (about any person or groups, organizations, etc.)
What do I think about my own life? (and other people's lives, if that matters to you)
– what do I think about the past?
Etc.
In these questions, the word “think” can be replaced by the word “feel” or “attitude”.

By answering a specific question, you will find one pole. The other, the opposite (opposing), will have to be chosen in order to get the whole duality. Both poles of duality must be relevant, they must “cling”, cause a reaction! Any kind of NOT-acceptance as it is can be called a reaction.

An example of finding duality. Suppose, to the question “what do I want?”, I find the answer “to have my own business”. Thus, "I want to have my own business" is half of my actual duality. Now we need to find the other half, opposite, opposing. Often it is formed by negation, with the help of the “not” particle. As a result, I get a ready-made duality "I want to have my own business - I don't want to have my own business." Before putting it into operation, you need to make sure that the duality is formulated in the most correct way. Perhaps it would be more correct to say: "I intend to have my own business - I intend not to have my own business", or like this: "I should start my own business - I should not start my own business." Semantic shades are different, so you need to choose the most appropriate. Make sure that the second pole is absolutely opposite to the first. "I want to have my own business - I don't really want to have my own business" - this is the wrong wording, because. the second pole is not completely opposite (it is somewhere between the extreme points). An incorrectly formulated duality will yield fewer results, or none at all.

Everything that is relevant to you can be formulated in the form of two polarities and worked out.

By answering the above questions, you will find many of your beliefs. Any belief or judgment has its opposite, forming a duality, and is processed like any other duality. You cannot completely deal with a belief without touching its opposite.

Preparing to Use the Techniques: List of Dualities

So, after answering your questions and writing a list of your dualities (highly recommended), choose what is most relevant (concerns or interests) and start working with it. Over time, the list will be replenished with new dualities, and the old ones, worked out, will be deleted. Choose the most relevant duality each time and work with it.

In itself, compiling and adding to the list has a therapeutic effect, as it allows you to see the picture as a set of dualities, and not separate poles. You will immediately feel the difference and it will be beneficial. Also, this list will remain in your mind; and in life, when you deal with any pole from the list, you will also see the opposite pole, which will keep you from plunging (introversion) into one of the polarities a little.

To find your actual dualities, you can use ready-made lists of dualities that are available in various practices. Sometimes this is useful. However, remember that you need to work only with what is relevant to you, and not with everything in a row. There is no point in working through someone's endless lists of dualities, and even more so in the sequence, as supposedly "should be". All people are different, and there is simply no single correct list.

Practice: Duality Processing Techniques

Before you start using duality processing techniques, read the materials on the site, especially the rules on the "Warning" page and the article "Accept AS IS".

And here I will give a couple of effective techniques (exercises, processes), successfully tested on myself and others. They are enough for the purposes of the first level. These techniques are fully adapted for independent use, and relatively quickly take consciousness beyond the duality of the mind - at least in relation to the problem being worked on.

To work through each duality, you will need to choose the most appropriate technique. If it seems to you that a particular duality can be worked through by any technique, choose any. Each technique has its pros and cons. Understand.

POLES SIMULATION

The essence of the technique is to alternately create and hold the attention of the poles.
1. Create the idea that ________ (pole 1) and hold it.
2. Create an idea that ________ (pole 2) and hold onto it.

"Create an idea" means to make that idea exist or to think that thought. It is advisable to hold it for at least a few seconds, which at first can be a very difficult task - since material from the past will come up, connected in some way with the held pole. By the end of working through the duality, it will become easy to hold the poles, without unpleasant sensations - nothing disturbing will come up.

While holding the idea, try to feel it as much as possible!
We do alternately 1, 2, 1, 2, 1, 2, etc., accepting AS IS any rubbish that falls out of the mind, and continue to the final result.

This is a very simple technique for working out polarities, but at the same time quite powerful. In my practice, I often used it, and always with good result. For most dualities, it fits perfectly.

Duality examples:
1. Create the idea that you are the cause of everything in your life.
2. Create the idea that you are the effect of everything in your life.

Or:
1. Create the idea that you are special.
2. Create the idea that you are the same as everyone else.

Or:
1. Create the idea that there is a destiny.
2. Create the idea that there is no destiny.

Note. When creating an idea, try to endow it with absolute certainty, as much as possible for you - this is more effective. That is, for example, if you create the thought “there is a destiny”, then let this thought sound confidently, without any doubts. Then just as confidently "there is no fate."

You work on the first pole, then the second, again the first, again the second, and so on until the final result.

Pole modeling is the most commonly used technique, the other two are described in the original article at the link below.

In the discussion on the forum, also read the questions and answers on the techniques of working through dualities, or ask your own question. There you can also discuss the material and communicate with practitioners and the author of the techniques.

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This article is intended for those who have already reached the understanding that resentment by itself will not disappear anywhere if it is not worked out, and has matured to concrete work with resentment. So, we explain without “water” how to work out an insult.

The study of any psychological problem consists of two stages. The first is writing out the mental material associated with this problem, and the second is the use of one or another technique for processing the mental material, aimed at removing the emotional charge from this material. After the emotional charge has been neutralized, you will no longer react to this mental material, and as a result, prevent its possible occurrence in the future. In addition, the elaboration of any mental material contributes to an increase in awareness in relation to one's psychological state, which only simplifies the elaboration process.

The mental stuff associated with resentment

First, let's talk about the kind of mental material associated with resentment that you will need to consider. The first category is your memories of episodes of your life in which resentment appeared. Some of the fattest episodes are your personal relationships, parting with a partner, quarrels, etc. Your task will be to write out - preferably in the form of a list - your memories, emotions associated with this episode, thoughts about these episodes, etc.

Take as an example the resentment associated with parting with a loved one. Your list might start something like this:

• he cheated on me and it hurts me
• Maybe I just got bored of him?
• for sure he found himself another, and cheated on me
• I tried to be the perfect girl for him - I catered to him in everything, and he ...
• I expected so much from our relationship - love, happiness, but received only pain
• I was advised by friends not to have business with her, but I did not listen - and who should be offended now?

The list that you get is the very mental material that you will then work through with the help of special equipment. If it’s hard for you to write about it, then start it - write “it’s hard for me to write about it”, “I don’t know where to start”. Already after 5-7 such proposals emotional block will disappear and mental material will flow out of you. The main thing is to be honest with yourself and do not try to express it logically, do not bother about punctuation, and do not strive to write coherently and grammatically correctly - write out the material in the form in which it appears before you.

Once you've written down a few pages of resentment-related material in a personal relationship, move on to other relationships - relationships with parents or children, relationships at work/boss, etc. In the same way, write down all the material that flashes before you when you direct your attention to specific episodes in your life that caused offense. After you have written out this material, proceed to the next step.

Children's grievances

We have already mentioned the relationship with your parents - now you will need to turn your eyes to your childhood. Few people had a really happy childhood, most people's childhood memories contain deposits of negative material in the form of resentment, hatred, fears, anger, disappointment and other things.

Resentments from the past - and childhood in particular - largely determine your response today, so it is necessary to work out the resentment from childhood. Take school with its poor grades and punishments from your father, take gifts that you were not given (although they promised), take the attitude of your parents towards your brother or sister (if they are not the only child in the family) and go ahead - write out all your memories in the same way and emotions associated with negative episodes until you feel like there is nothing more to say.

Aspecting resentment

This is the most hard part work, because it will require you not only to delve into your painful memories, but also to break down the mental material associated with resentment into aspects, that is, to consider the resentment from the point of view of various psychological concepts.

One such psychological concept is the "benefit" of mental material. Roughly speaking, every mental material that you have exists not only due to its emotional charge, but also due to the benefits that this mental material provides you. You may ask - what other benefits can I get from resentment ?? Very simply - people who often feel resentment like to be in the position of a victim - they use their resentment to relieve themselves of responsibility for their lives and blame circumstances for their misfortunes, instead of solving their problems. In addition, people can successfully find comfort and support among their friends by telling them about their resentment episodes. That is, no matter how absurd it may sound, resentment can improve your communication with your friends - which is not a benefit ...

There are many such concepts, and therefore this part of the work is quite difficult - you may not have enough knowledge in psychology and you may simply not know what to start from (perhaps that is why you got to this page). So, firstly, we recommend that you familiarize yourself with the articles on this site - in fact, each of our articles, to one degree or another, is either ready-made material for study, or serves as a starting point for study. Here are some articles to get you started:

Secondly, we will go a little ahead and say that by studying using a special technique for working out mental material, which we recommend below, you yourself will figure out in a couple of months what aspects you need to break down any mental material, and you will be able to successfully do it yourself no worse any psychologist! Now let's move on to the technique itself.

How to work through resentment - Technique for working out the mental material

This technique is called Turbo Gopher. It represents a high-speed system for the total processing of all mental garbage that you have managed to accumulate in yourself during your conscious and unconscious life. It differs from other techniques in its unique approach to processing, which consists in batch processing of material, which allows loading a huge amount of material into one protocol for processing and instructing the subconscious mind to process this material in accordance with a certain algorithm.

It should be noted right away that the material that was written out after doing all the above actions will not be enough for a total study of the offense. Because resentment is so intertwined with other emotions, you will need to process those as well.

Let's explain what is meant. Resentment is closely intertwined with many things, such as jealousy (in the case of personal relationships). This means that in the process of working through resentment, you will have to take jealousy and work it out in the same way, otherwise the unprocessed emotional charge associated with jealousy will provoke resentment in the future. Thus, the elaboration of resentment will inevitably entail the elaboration of related emotions. In fact, the elaboration of resentment over time will be a total elaboration of all psychological problems.

But in this regard, again, Turbo-Gopher will be indispensable due to the huge number of protocols for working out all kinds of emotions, beliefs, psychological problems, emotional charge from the past, which will become available to you as soon as you start working on the system. So no burden will fall on your shoulders absolutely self-development - TC protocols will greatly facilitate your work. In addition, the system also includes additional elements processing aimed at achieving greater emotional freedom and increased awareness are necessary measures for successful independent handling any problems.

You can get acquainted with the technique itself. There you can also get your copy of the technique manual for free, and subscribe to an exclusive mailing list on this technique, from which you will learn how it can be used to solve absolutely any problem. We wish you success in working through the offense!